By right today is my cousin wedding but due to limited seats, hence the children won't have a chance to attend it. During today's lunch I have mention to my colleague that I am disapproved of my cousin wedding arrangement as they only have 4 to 5 table. The bride is my second uncle 2nd daughter. None of the relative likes the wedding arrangement of both daughters, but anyway it is their own business...
My cousin secretly ROM with the guy without informing all relatives, well I can accept the fact that they want a quiet ROM. The guy just stay with my uncle and aunt after the ROM. I am not too sure whether he do pay any rental or allowance. They just rent out their flat to others and use the rent to pay the housing loan.
They guy simply refuse to hold any wedding dinner, buffet and etc. My aunt finally give in to the guy and told them that all the red packet will go to them as long they hold a small wedding dinner. The day before the wedding, my aunt have an argument with the groom. As my aunt was an Indonesian, their relative is coming to attend their wedding. My aunt inform that their Indonesia's relative red packet will be pretty small.Thus, she request that all Indonesia relative red packet will got to my aunt. The guy start to argue with my aunt and that guy actually call to the restaurant to cancel off the wedding dinner!!! My aunt so angry that she kick the guy out of the house and requested my cousin to divorce with him. My aunt need to inform all relatives that the dinner have been cancel. I have to said luckily that my cousin colleagues are not invited to this wedding. Else, how is she going to face the world.
Basically, Singaporean wedding is that the bride parents will request for certain number of tables in the wedding table. All the costs will be bear by the groom and the red packet that is collected from these tables will belongs to the bride's parents. As Singaporean do not really give a lot of dowry.
Once I hear this news I am so mad. My aunt is not asking a lot... I mean the parents have a hard time upbringing their child, providing them education and etc. Now your daughter is going to be someone else daughter and the surname will switch to the groom surname. Of course, it is OK to have some money involve. Futhermore, you will never know how much your relative will give you and it is some kind of risk lor.
Frankly speaking both my cousin and the guy should be quite well paid. Surely, they are able to afford the wedding dinner. Moreover, it is hold at a restaurant that where we are able to get special discount due to my 3rd uncle working down there.
I am so mad.... I mean where on earth does this guy come from, do he know a word call embarrass. I really feel that he is the worst guy on earth. Who the hell is he, to make my cousin so heart break and lost all the "face". Those shotgun married couples also have proper weddding. I really don't mind whether the dinner is hold at ballrooms, restaurants, CC or even kopitiam zi cha. As long both couple is happy and they will get all the blessing from the guests. Why things turn out this way because of the unknown red packet amount.
Girls out there please state you agreement/contract and etc best before your ROM. I believe that love make people blind, you may end up regretting. Everybody that go to register for ROM wish for a life long relationship but things will not go your the way you want. Pre-agreement will have better negotiation power and it will save a lot of future trouble. Wedding is not really just a thing between 2 person, it involve the whole family. You are able to judge whether both side parents able to stay in harmony from the way they organise the weding.
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